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Mary's avatar

A beautiful tribute throughout. At our Thanksgiving dinner I am going to share your words, "Our lives are shaped by events and forces over which we have little control. But they are also molded by the people we choose to have around us." It reminds us to be our best, as we affect those around us so much.

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Pam J's avatar

A beautiful tribute. Thank you for sharing your personal memories with us. Peace & comfort to you and all who knew her.

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Joan Grabe's avatar

You are such a truly nice man, Elliot. Thank you for sharing your memories of Jean as it makes Dan seem more human, more like us. It is a true pleasure to read Dan and you on Substack. Most times it is a welcome break from the Washington madness and the tumultuous world. Happy Thanksgiving.

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Jessica Fleming's avatar

That's why I signed on to Elliot's stack, Joan..... because he seems a truly nice and kind soul with wisdom..... SUCH a rarity, especially in journalism these days. Witness this tender portrait of another beautiful soul. Blessings to you, Joan, to Elliot, to Jean in her new estate, and especially to Dan.

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Cathryn's avatar

This is beautiful and touching and inspirational. My sympathies for your loss of an old and dear friend.

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Linda Sanford Wirt's avatar

Dan Rather will miss her almost as much as we miss his pragmatic well-delivered and balanced broadcasts. God Bless you Jean. You helped him to be himself.

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Susan's avatar

Much love and gratitude to Dan at this time of loss.✨💔🌺🙏🏻✨

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Sheila Blackford's avatar

Such a sweet memory. These little moments are the ones that stay. Thank you for opening your heart to us.

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Claudia McKee's avatar

That was beautiful. I'm sure it will be appreciated.

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Carol Spencer's avatar

What a woman - intelligent, wise, talented, and loving. I'm sure it's not easy to be the "trailing spouse" of a very well-known journalist like Dan. Thanks for your powerful tribute to Jean, Dan and their marriage.

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mitch's avatar

Great writing to your friend and Dan's lover . So sad she passed . Great woman we could all learn from . Peace to you Elliot

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Julie I's avatar

I cannot come up with the right words. All I do know with absolute certainty Jean is the person I aspire to be. Jean and Dan are in my thoughts and prayers.

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Linda Querry's avatar

I am so sorry for this loss. To hear of their 67 year marriage, love, devotion, respect, accomplishments, and joy gives me hope for humankind, My thoughts are with Dan, their family and friends, and with you Elliot as you grieve this loss. “Stay Steady”.

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Max the Cat's avatar

Thank you for sharing your thoughts and memories, and please accept my sincere sympathies for your loss as well. May her memory be a blessing.

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JudyBee's avatar

Thank you for sharing that special day, nothing is insignificant..

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Mim Eisenberg (NYer now in GA)'s avatar

Thank you for this heartfelt tribute. Many memories of your times with Jean comfort you and Dan and make you smile.

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Joyce Boatright's avatar

A touching tribute. I appreciate your sharing your memories; you describe Mrs. Rather so well and what is needed for a good marriage.

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